How to Make Good Sustainable Changes in Your Life with Julie Reisler

As the world is opening up again, many of you may be itching for some exciting change in your life. How often have you made a resolution in the past, but barely saw it through? It’s easy to make big goals and ambitions, but we need to remember that change never happens overnight. It takes consistent work and we need to stay motivated!

In today’s episode, Life Designer Julie Reisler joins us to talk about how we become ready for change and how we can make sure they’re sustainable. She recommends practical tips such as knowing your why, mindfulness, and habit stacking. Julie also talks about the rise of coaches and understanding their role.

If you struggle with sticking to your habits and creating sustainable changes in your life, this episode is for you!

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

Learn the purpose of coaching and how to spot good coaches.
Find out how to be coachable and ready for change.
Discover how to create sustainable change by first knowing your why.

Resources

Want to learn more from Julie? Check out her show, the Youest You Podcast! You can also catch Rosie as a guest on the episode, How to be Radically Loved.
Incorporate meditation into your life with Julie’s guided meditations on Insight Timer
You Are Radically Loved by Rosie Acosta.
Connect and learn more about Julie: Website I Instagram I Youtube I LinkedIn

Episode Highlights

[01:08] Introducing Julie

Julie’s work as a coach and Life Designer stemmed from her personal struggles and darkness.
Her father is a Vietnam veteran and had undiagnosed PTSD. Julie is naturally empathic and she struggled to handle her emotions, so she comforted herself with food and bags.
Her food addiction reached a point where she judged who she wanted to be friends with based on the foods they ate.
Julie also used to struggle with not feeling enough, not being able to process healing, and feeling a lot of shame around money.
In the episode, she shares a powerful moment that changed her life and pushed her to join a 12-step support group to get help.
The program changed Julie’s life and she saw how important a simple question can change people. This inspired her to do what her coach was doing.

[10:18] What a Coach Should and Should Not Be

[14:16] “Getting training is important but also understanding the premise of coaching, [it] is not giving someone advice or telling them what to do. It is based on…this model in positive psychology that's based on appreciative inquiry and the whole idea that each of us has…that divine spark in us.” - Click Here To Tweet This

Recently, there’s been a rise of people wanting to do self-work but also the rise of ineffective coaches.
Julie shares that this is a positive reflection that more people have a desire to be connected to their higher self. The coaching profession has blossomed during the past decade.
However, she wants that many coaches may be unfamiliar with what coaching should and should not be. It’s not giving advice and telling people what to do.
True coaching is based on positive psychology. The approach should be appreciative inquiry and acknowledging that people are experts in their own lives.
Skilled coaches listen at a deeper level and ask questions to help people uncover their subconscious beliefs, dreams, and motivation.

[15:44] “A skilled coach learns how to listen at a level that most of us are not trained to listen, to hear what's being said and what's not. [They] know how to ask questions that go way below the surface. So think of an iceberg, they go way below what you're seeing on top.” - Click Here To Tweet This

[17:28] Why Coaches Need to Ask Questions

Good questions naturally make people think and look for an answer. A question that comes from a place of learning and empowerment can change people’s lives.
Miracles are all about shifts in perspective. A trained coach can help people live and embrace miracles.
Change doesn’t happen when people are told to do things a certain way. They need to find that answer themselves.

[19:48] “A miracle is a shift in perspective. That is [what] a coach is trained [on], [they] help you to embrace and feel and live miracles, literally, and you can brainstorm it.” - Click Here To Tweet This

[21:14] How Do We Become Coachable?

We become coachable when we’re ready for change.
Julie uses a measuring tool of 1-10 to determine people’s readiness for change. It’s recommended to be at least a 5.
When we’re not ready, it will be hard to change. This gives coaching a bad reputation and is also very deflating for the person.
When you want to make a change, ask yourself these questions: how important is this? Have you done something like this before and what worked? How can you feel more ready?

[22:04] “I use [a] tool that is the scale of 1 to 10. You want readiness to change to be at least a five out of 10. You want that at least midpoint because you have to have some openness and readiness to change otherwise, it doesn't work.” - Click Here To Tweet This

[23:19] Find Support in Others

It can be daunting to do self-inquiry. Julie shares that this is why coaching and therapy are good, as they provide support for change.
We can’t just push through change forcefully. It’s easier when we get support from others.

[25:14] How to Create Sustainable Change

People coming out of the pandemic may feel excitement for change and there’s a tendency for unsustainable changes.
Julie recommends becoming aware of your intentions and motivations. Ask why a change is important to you.
Change doesn't happen overnight, it can take as little as 3 months to create real sustainable change.
Julie also recommends mindfulness and meditation to help people feel calm and connected. You can also stack habits together.
Julie shares that it’s hard to see our own limiting beliefs since we’re stuck in them. This is why it’s important to have a trained coach to give us a different perspective.

[29:53] “We know any kind of mindfulness practice helps…It is very really hard to see limiting beliefs. And when you're stuck in your stories, or you know, identity stuff or subconscious, it's very hard to see it yourself, it's really hard to work through that yourself.” - Click Here To Tweet This

[33:46] How Julie Feels Radically Loved

Julie shares feeling radically loved whenever she converses with heart-centered people.
It also comes from her deep appreciation for being alive and being who she is.

About Julie

Julie Reisler is known as America’s Life Designer and the founder of the Life Designer Coach Academy certification program. For over a decade, she has been mentoring and coaching passionate leaders and individuals to design their best life and actualize their potential. She is also the author of Get a Ph.D. in YOU, a multi-time TEDx speaker, and host of The You-est You podcast.

Julie has been featured in MindBodyGreen, Forbes, and The Chopra Center. She was educated in health and wellness coaching from the Maryland University of Integrative Health and is also a faculty at Georgetown University.

Learn more about Julie on her website.

You can also connect with her on Instagram, Youtube, and LinkedIn.